My Happiness Space

  They will never admit, they lie, and twist the truth. They make sure we look like the difficult one. I lived this, and know how deep the scars are when we are never heard, when our emotions are completely neglected. The trauma is real and what we have been through is abuse. Their mood swings are unpredictable. We never knew what version of them we were going to get. So we learned to walked on eggshells, adjusted, kept quiet — just to avoid conflict. And with that, we lost our confidence, our sense of truth, we doubt ourselves and feel a deep pain. We live in a constant state of fear, fear of what comes next, because we were thought that life is unpredictable. I have healed, and went back to school to become a trauma specialist, I want to pay it forward, because i know how painful it is, especially when we start understanding. If you need support, please have a look   here  it is a safe healing space, where you can find resources to cope with the deep pain we experi...

Healing is understanding, because once we understand; we can begin to shift.  Anxiety is fear of the future and fear that the past repeats itself.  It is our subconscious trying to protect us.  Its our subconscious saying - "This reminds me of a situation you were in before, and I won't let it happen to you again! " Take the veteran, re-living the horrendous images of war, it is the subconscious saying "Hey - I will keep on showing you this, to make sure you never go back there. " I grew up in an abusive household and carried the emotions of my past into my present and future, but once I understood this, I started to heal. When I feel the anxiety creep in, I remind myself that is is my subconscious trying to keep me safe.  I now know that the past does not have to repeat itself, and  that the anxiety I experienced was not about what is happening today, or tomorrow, but a form of protection - just in case... I went back to school to learn more, and today I am a t...